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Want to be a better father?

10 things great dads do

My review of 10 Things Great Dads Do by Rick Johnson

5 years and 2 months ago, my wife and I become the parents to a beautiful baby girl. In March of this year we became the parents to the cutest baby boy ever born…I might be a little bias. Outside of marriage, there is probably nothing that teaches people more about themselves than parenting and in 5 short years, I have had some great moments and some not so great moments. There are moments I look back at and wonder how I could have possibly responded and acted the way I did. Then there are times where I have the perfect parent mindset and I wonder why it does not remain forever. As anyone will tell you, parenting is hard work. It is a tough task for anyone. The only people who might say parenting is easy would be those parents who have abdicated their responsibility to actually raise their kids and pay others to do it.

As soon as you say you want to be the best parent there is, your child will unknowingly find a way to put you to the test. You might be on the way home from work and say I am going to be the perfect father when I get home. Then, you walk in the door to your house and it looks like a tornado has somehow picked out the inside of your home and completely turned everything around. The home you left when you went to work in the morning is a distant memory. Your wife is laying on the couch (if she doesn’t meet you at the door and tell you “good luck, I will be back in a month”) completely worn out from the day. Every room looks like my daughter turned into the incredible hulk and just went smashing through the house. On top of that, she has decided the walls would be her painting and coloring canvas instead of paper, the toilets are clogged because she used too much toilet paper after using the bathroom, water is all over the bathroom floor from her cannonball into the bathtub, the floors are a slip-n-slide due to drool from my teething son, and my daughter is running around the house singing “Let it Go” at the top of her lungs. Ok, so the truth is this has never happened to me, it may have to some of you but I just wanted to include this for dramatic effect. It seems when we decide to become better at something, the universe comes at you with all guns blazing. It is crazy how this happens. But every feeling you have had to this moment goes out the window as you just want to walk back out and try again in a couple hours.

I have to admit I have never personally experienced anything this bad, but it does seem that every time I truly decide I am going to be more patient with my kids, something happens to test it. Up until reading this book, I had been praying and asking God to help me become a better father and husband. 10 Things Great Dads Do was the best book for me to read at my current stage in life. I am far from being a perfect dad. I have my good moments and my bad moments but unfortunately, it seems like the bad moments far outweigh the good moments. I do not want to be the dad who looks back and regrets how he parented his kids. I want to be the dad who looks back and cherishes every moment he had with his children and would not change a thing. I know this would only happen in a perfect world but I also know if I truly want to be the best father and husband I can be, it will take hard work, discipline and dedication. Some people might say it will take blood, sweat and tears, which can also be true but I think you get the picture. To be a good father, it will take work because our kids really know how to bring out the worst in us…and they never had to be trained for it. After reading 10 Things, I can honestly say I have been refreshed, encouraged and challenged to be the best father I can be as well as equipped with some helpful tips and advice on how to move forward in my quest to better fathering.

Rick Johnson shares from personal experiences as well as stories from other fathers in order to help dads make decisions to be great dads, and that is what it takes, a decision to do it and then the discipline to follow through. Anyone can be a great dad but in order to do so, you cannot forfeit your responsibilities, you have to embrace them. Along with this, there is enormous pressure on fathers. It has been proven that children without a father face a much more difficult life than children with fathers. Daughters and sons both need the presence of a father or the tide turns against them in life and life becomes an even more intense uphill battle. Thus, fathers really need to step up to the plate for the sake of their children, and the next generation. This book will encourage and equip you with ideas on how to become the father you long to be.

As a father, are you beat up? Are you discouraged because there seems to be more yelling than laughter in your home? Are you tempted to just become more withdrawn from your family and just hope above that everything will turn out ok and then you can come back in to your children’s lives? Or are you going through a great stretch in your life right now where everything is just peachy? No matter where you are at in your journey of fatherhood, this book is worth your time. I can honestly say I have been challenged to be a better father through this book and it has given me renewed energy to actually strive to be the best father I can be. If you know of a man in your life who is just getting beat up as a father and is discouraged, get him a copy of this book. It will help.

Disclaimer: In accordance with FTC regulations, I received this book from Revell Books in return for a review of the book.


Weekly Scoop

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Not only is today the day I post my Weekly Scoop, but today I am actually heading to the hospital for gallbladder surgery. Yes, today will be the day I part with something that has been with me for over 32 years. However, even though it has been with me for so long, I do not believe I am going to miss it, or the pain it has given me in recent days. With that said, I am going to get this post posted so I can get ready to head to the hospital.

This is a great article on the impact missionaries have had in numerous locations around the world: The Impact world missionaries have made.

A big event coming up is the big game on Sunday, but along with that comes another issue, that of human trafficking. Ed Stetzer addresses a misconception that comes with it: The Super Bowl and Sex Trafficking.

Here is a great post on the issues facing a husband and wife after baby. This is a great read for both men and women: Before you were mommy.

A song that is pretty popular these days is “Same Love” by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis. Jackie Hill responds to the message the song preaches: Former lesbian responds to Same Love.

This video presents the gospel in a different but effective way: Video Preaches the gospel in breathtaking way.

Did you watch the Grammys? Wonder how Christians should respond or what we can take away from it? Here are a couple perspectives: Worldview responses to the Grammys.

Has your church moved away from an evening service? Here is a great perspective on why not to: Why I love the evening service.

As a youth pastor, I am constantly finding articles on how to reach the next generation. Here is another great article for parents, youth workers, and ministers alike: How to rescue the next generation.

Churches should be known for being gospel cultures. But how can churches make sure they stay this way? Ray Ortlund addresses this question: Safeguarding your church as a gospel culture.

Justin Lathrop has a great article regarding how churches can stay on mission as well. Not only is it good for churches, it is also good for individuals: How to stay on mission.

Lastly, this is an interesting article on the question of whether or not authenticity has trumped holiness in churches: Has authenticity trumped holiness?

That is all for today. If you enjoy reading these links, feel free to share this through any of your social media outlets. Lastly, if there is anything you believe I should share next week in my weekly scoop, share it with me on twitter or leave it in the comments below.