This is the second book I have read by Darrin Patrick, the first being For the City which he and Matt Carter wrote together. I have to admit, I was a little skeptical about this book before reading it. With a title like The Dude’s Guide, one could get the feeling the author is being prideful in writing a book such as this, claiming to know what it takes to be a man. Using terminology such as “The Dude’s” anything could be a ploy to grab at the heart of any male. However, I have to say this book is neither of those. I am glad I did not let the title push me away from reading it because this is a book that I needed to read and one I believe every man should read.
Why do I say this? Simple. As you read through this book, you are presented with a true, biblical perspective on what a man should be. Culture has skewed our perspective on what men should be. The world tries to say men who are more into video games than work are still growing up, thus why adolescence has been extended to past college. Men who cheat on their wives are in many cases no longer looked down on. Men who work so much they do not have time for their children are in some cases praised. Men are allowed to be vulgar, uncommitted, even lazy among other things. And because society has allowed this, men have dropped to that level. Men and porn are about as synonymous as baseball games and hot dogs or beer. It is not just expected that men will look at porn and we should just accept it. TV shows and movies now present this as just acceptable, even with a married man. All of this is just sad. Men have stooped to the low that the world has said is ok for them. We need a new standard, especially among Christians, to get men to be men.
How do we do this? One way would be to get this book, read it and then apply it to your life. At the end of the book, Darrin ties everything he just wrote together with the fact that for us to be men, we have to start with God and our relationship with Jesus. Without God, living as a true man is impossible. Without God, we will continue to settle into what the world says is ok or acceptable for men. If all we do is try to attempt everything Darrin writes in this book and use it as a 10 step program to become a better man, we will fail somewhere along the way. Without our relationship with Jesus fueling us in this fight, we will become overpowered and live in defeat.
This book is not for the weak. It is easy to succumb to the world’s pull and allow ourselves to live as weak men. But that is far from what God has called us to be. Our ultimate example of what a man should be is Jesus Christ. How he treated people, how He loved people, how He touched lives should be what drives us. God’s ultimate goal for men is to become like His Son and that is the standard by which we need to measure ourselves, not by those men around us. I am planning on using the discussion guide from this website, http://thejourney.org/media/dudes-guide-manhood, to help facilitate a men’s study at my church.
Men, get a copy of this book. Women, buy a copy for the man in your life. Churches, have your men go through this book. The church and the world need men to start being men again, and not the counterfeit men the world has put before us and claimed is manhood. The men presented in beer commercials are not the men God has called us to be. Even the most interesting man in the world, as one commercial claim, is a far cry from true and authentic manhood. There is so much more to being a man then just sleeping with as many women as possible and drinking beer and smoking cigars. God has called us to this and it is much more fulfilling than the counterfeit men the world produces.
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